Reflect on How You Typically React
One strategy you can use to implement new skills is to reflect on how you typically react when someone shares good news and become aware of some of the pitfalls when responding to your friends and family. Here are some of those pitfalls: Squashing: Pointing out problems or providing negative feedback. Shutting Down: Responding with low energy; not caring or being distracted. Stealing: Focusing on yourself (one-upping); ignoring the event. It may be helpful to spend some time thinking about the last week. Were there times when you squashed, shut down, or stole your friend’s good news? What was the circumstance? What did the person say? How did you respond? Looking back, what could you have said or done differently? After this reflection, try a new behavior next time such as asking questions or showing authentic support. Compare how you felt when celebrating good news versus squashing, shutting down, or stealing.

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